It’s amazing just how many big thoughts can be boiled down to a simple idea. Take the topic of friendship. Ask an adult what friendship is, and you’ll probably get a rather detailed and (possibly) dull answer. Maybe a laugh and an embarrassing story. Ask one of the younger set, and you’ll discover that friendship […]
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The Enneagram is a robust system of personality, self-awareness and personal growth. As parents, we are challenged daily to grow ourselves into our best selves so as to meet the developing needs of our children in a peaceful and loving manner. The Enneagram can offer a path out of ineffective parenting patterns such as reacting […]
Conversation overheard at the park: Kid 1: No he’s not! Kid 2: Yes he is! My puppy IS my blood brother. Kid 1: How?
As a parent you want to ensure that you raise your kids right, or to the best of your abilities at least.
Part of that is teaching them how to be ready for the world. Making sure they know their name, address, phone number and teaching them that you, Mom (or Dad), have your very own first name, too.
What I didn’t realize is that one day my oh-so cool 3.5 year old would stroll into the house after preschool one day and say, “Hi Chanden.”
As I tried to hide my amused smirk and giggle, I looked over and said, “Hello there.” I found myself stuck.
Now, I don’t want him to get the wrong idea that that is not my first name. But I didn’t go through what I did to make that miniature being call me by my first name.
What I wanted to turn around and say, “Hello there… by the way, the name is Mom! I earned it and deserved to be called by that rightful name. So use it – sir.”
A couple of weeks ago, my son was lucky enough to spend a week with his great grandparents. In preparation for our trip I crammed tons of toys and books into suitcases. When we left, I was nervous that I didn’t pack enough to entertain my son for an entire week.
Every year some of us line up our toddlers to sit on a stranger’s lap and are surprised when they react with anything less than joy. Well, okay, maybe we’re not totally surprised. Maybe a small part of us even expects it. And maybe, just maybe, we think it’s a sort of rite of passage and we find the crying Santa photos just a little bit funny, in spite of the short-term trauma they may inflict.
I was one of those parents this past holiday. Last year my son, Alex, was only 8 months old – the perfect age to go happily along with whatever, including the odd tradition of cozying up to a strange man in fuzzy red suit. So, to be fair, I wasn’t positive that he wouldn’t handle it with the same aplomb this year, even though developmentally, at 20 months, he was much less likely to take it in his stride. He is a pretty easygoing kid and very social. Well, guess what? He didn’t.
We got there early. We were in the front of the line. I decided to let a family with slightly older and younger kids go first (a family safely before and after the age of being terrorized by the white-haired man). I figured if Alex could witness their successful visit, he would be more comfortable with his own. That lasted for about 30 seconds. No sooner had he sat on Santa’s lap than he scrunched up his face, opened his mouth and let out a fairly clear squawk of protest. He didn’t actually cry. But he did try to jettison his little rigid body right off Santa’s lap and his adamant vocal protests made it clear that he was not, shall we say, in his happy place.
But call me just a little bit evil, the photo is pretty amusing.
In my family, the kids look forward to the holidays all year long—which makes the season especially precious when it finally arrives. Holiday traditions like family time, feasts, and gift-giving and receiving are all part of what makes the season special. Another tradition that can add to the magic of the season is reading holiday […]
Many parents know, from the moment they bring home a new baby, or at least from the time they start getting a decent night’s sleep, that naming a guardian for their children is one of those important grown-up tasks that they should do. But a lot of people just don’t do it. And it’s not […]
When I was pregnant with my second baby, I was lucky enough to have long discussions with my midwives. During one of those conversations, we talked about my postpartum support plans. We discussed my experience during the early days and weeks with my first baby, what I wished had been different and whether I had […]