Archive for the ‘Family & Relationships’ Category

I Made Him Fear Me

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I had become a horrible parent. Up to this point, parenting had been the easiest job I’d ever had. My wife and I were champs. We were (are) attachment parents; co-slept and never felt tired; managed to navigate New York, Paris, Amsterdam and every place in between without a stroller until, at two years old, […]

Member Musings: Dinner Funnies

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A recent family dinner conversation went like this:Dad: I don’t know. I think if you had wanted to be committed to me on our first date, I would have been, um, . . .Mom: Thrilled! You would have been thrilled! Yes?

Jewish Baby Network Family Outreach

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Are you pregnant? Do you have a baby? If yes, then we want to get to know you! Jewish Baby Network brings families together. We offer welcome bags, playgroups, and classes. Our Shalom Baby Bag, a complimentary bag filled with gifts, is available to families who have recently had a baby. We sponsor playgroups to […]

Book Trusted Sitters with UrbanSitter

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Looking for a better way to find babysitters? Try UrbanSitter! Founded by four busy parents, UrbanSitter is an online resource to find sitters recommended by people you know. Simply create a FREE account and identify your parenting groups (PAMP, child’s school, etc.) to see a selection of sitters whom your friends and fellow PAMP parents […]

Competition vs. Creativity

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We civilized folk seem to be addicted to competition — obsessed with who is the best and the worst, who has the most and the least, who are the winners and the losers. In our culture we habitually frame most everything in terms of conflict and competition. “Do you love dancing? … You should enter […]

La Petite Baleen ~ the Premier Swim Program

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La Petite Baleen Swim School is the Bay Area’s premiere learn-to-swim program since 1979. Our custom designed and built indoor facilities provide the cleanest and safest water to teach our young swimmers. The unique child-development based curriculum is award winning and nationally recognized by the US Swim School Association. Come visit our brand new Atherton […]

Member Musings: Appreciation from a Long-Time PAMP Member

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Having been a member since 1998 — back before we even had an e-mail group, when I spent many hours collating and addressing paper newsletters monthly . . . I think the membership was about 400? . . . and there was much discussion about whether or not to change the name from “Mother’s Club” […]

Book Trusted Sitters with UrbanSitter

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Looking for a better way to find babysitters? Try UrbanSitter! Founded by four busy parents, UrbanSitter is an online resource to find sitters recommended by people you know. Simply create a FREE account and identify your parenting groups (PAMP, child’s school, etc.) to see a selection of sitters whom your friends and fellow PAMP parents […]

Member Musings: Father’s Day — Honoring Great Teachers…Our Kids

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I’d like to make a suggestion to all of the fathers out there when our special day comes on the third Sunday of June: honor your kids. Make the day about them, about what they have taught you and celebrate how you have grown because of them. Spend the day telling them very specific things you remember […]

Paternity Leave: Play Ball

Photo by Rebecca Alison

Dear Mike Francesca, Boomer Esiason, and Craig Carton, I have no idea who you are. Really, I don’t. Sorry. I had to look up how to spell your names for this article. But I heard what you said about New York Mets player Daniel Murphy [missing two games for paternity leave]

Run Away?

Photo by Rebecca Alison

Has your child ever threatened to run away? They might. Someday you could hear the dreaded claim: “That’s not fair!” or “You are a bad mommy. I’m going to run away.” If this ever happens, how will you handle it? Will you threaten your child with taking away toys or even a spanking? Will you […]

La Petite Baleen ~ the Premier Swim Program

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La Petite Baleen Swim School is the Bay Area’s premiere learn-to-swim program since 1979. Our custom designed and built indoor facilities provide the cleanest and safest water to teach our young swimmers. The unique child-development based curriculum is award winning and nationally recognized by the US Swim School Association. Come visit our brand new Atherton […]

Parenting by Connection

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While being the new parent of an infant is exhausting, it is also quite straightforward in the sense that if you are sure feed, clothe, bathe, cuddle and put to rest your new infant, he or she will be content and eager to interact, smile, play and learn. Toddlerhood, however, is a different ball game. […]

Member Musings: Quality Time

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For months my husband and I have been trying to figure out the best way to make the most of the 1.5 hours we have with our two boys during the work week before bed time. Although we both would struggle with not showing our exhaustion and stress from being at the office earlier that day and instead show our kids “I’m excited to see you and spend time with you as much as you are!”, we couldn’t find the right balance.

We attempted to do everything together with our two young boys (now 2 and 4 years old), but realized that the needs of each was difficult to tackle at the same time in such a short period. From having them alternate what they wanted to do each night or us picking an easy win of watching a Leap Frog video for 20 minutes before reading books, we were about to give up.

I know that I was very lucky that both my husband and I could be home with the kids for dinner and bedtime most of the time, but it pained me that the small window of time was not ideal or best used. After months and months of unsuccessful attempts, I finally came up with an option that made us all happy.

Every night we would split – then switch. For example:

Monday: Mama and 4 year old would do an activity that 4yo would pick while Papa and 2 year old would do an age appropriate activity for the 2yo. Then after bath, Mama would read books to the 2yo and put him to bed and Papa would do the same for the 4yo.

Tuesday: Mama was with 2 yo and Papa with 4 yo, then after bath time they would switch…

and so on…

It’s been about a week of this and I have to say not only do we feel we get to have some one on one time with our kids and build a bond, but at the same time the kids get to enjoy an activity that they love.

Sounds simple right?! Just wish my brain would have as much energy as my heart when it would come to these types of things sometimes.

Teach Literacy During Temper Tantrums

Photo by Rebecca Alison

Effective parenting is often counterintuitive. My favorite time to teach early literacy is when a child is wailing or hopping mad. Sounds crazy, no? The idea of grabbing a pen and paper when a child is screaming, kicking their heels or simply crying because they miss mommy does seem odd at first.